STOP PERFORMING.
START LIVING!
STOP PERFORMING. START LIVING!
Become a fully present parent, fiercely loving partner, and successful business leader
... without burning out, selling out, or losing yourself in the process.
NOBODY KNOWS...
What it's taking to hold it all together.
At some point in this journey, we got caught in the performing trap.
Because it made us the money. It got us the partner.
It pushed us through the tough situation. It made us resilient.
It even brought us success in a way the world is celebrating.
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Controlling things, making sure everything happens the way it needs to happen, has absolutely been the reason for your current level of success.
And it's also what you're drowning in.
Performing three different versions of yourself
Zero capacity left for what actually matters
Gripping tight to the life you built
Wondering if there will ever be "enough"
CAPACITY IS THE ONLY WAY OUT
Not balance. Not time management. Not optimization. CAPACITY.
The ability to respond instead of react.
To hold more without holding on.
To show up full instead of showing up depleted.
Capacity isn't time. Time is a byproduct.
When you build capacity (real capacity) everything else shifts.
Not because you're doing less. Because you're no longer performing.
Your team steps up as you begin calling forward the genius in everyone around you.
Your wife sees you (the real you), not the exhausted shell who's been performing all day.
One person. Everywhere. Fully alive.
I'm Brent Perkins
Like you, I was the guy everyone counted on.
White-knuckling my way through chasing success.
Then my marriage ended. My health crashed.
And I finally saw that my "indispensability" had created
imprisonment. For me and everyone around me.
I knew there had to be another way.
And what I found was unbelievable.
Brent Perkins is one of the most caring and present leaders in the marketplace today. Unlike many other thought leaders who offer little in terms of tangible value, he overdelivers in every sense of the word. Brent has helped my business but more importantly my marriage, my relationships with my kids, and even my relationship with myself.
Andrew Biggs, CEO, Better Than Rich
THE REAL REASON YOU'RE STUCK
Most of us want the life we can see in our head:
present parent, connected partner, successful business, at peace with ourselves.
But we're terrified of what we'll have to give up to get there.
Papercuts unpacks the invisible patterns that shape your behavior, limit your capacity, and sabotage your growth, without you realizing it.
"Love the deep dive into vulnerability. The dedication and intro to 'Papercuts' are brilliant. Can't wait to see what kind of impact this has on the world!"
Kasim Aslam , Co-Founder of DrivenMastermind.com
HOW DOES THIS WORK?
1. Call a timeout
We have a conversation. I see where the performing is costing the most and where your grip is tightest.
2. Build capacity
We work together on who you're being, not just what you're doing. Energy. Attention. Presence. The three pillars that give you margin.
3. Start living
You stop performing. Business, family, self - one person everywhere. You shift from forcing to overflowing. Leadership becomes effortless.
I'm in your corner, not as a coach but as a strategic partner,
revealing blindspots and interrupting patterns.
"For weeks, I’ve been wrestling with feelings of emotional tension, both personally and professionally. The struggles of personal growth, its impact on my relationship with my wife, and the balance with my business responsibilities have felt like a weight on my soul.Â
Hearing Brent articulate the complexities of growth and relationships has been nothing short of a revelation for me. It again reinforced the importance of vulnerability, integrity, and the slow yet necessary journey of personal growth. I am immensely grateful for the normalized perspective I’ve gained through your content, and it’s inspired me to be a better husband, father, and leader.
Thank you for the work you’re doing and for sharing wisdom that brings not just knowledge, but also emotional relief and support.
It’s not getting easier; I think I am just slowly getting better at learning how I operate, how i am growing, sharing, and digging deep for my true integrity. With deepest gratitude!"
 - Derek Nolte, Owner of Truhome Property Solutions
FAQs
Who is this for?
Fathers who run or lead successful companies who have the world's definition of success but are secretly exhausted by what it's taking to hold it all together.
What's the investment?
This is premium work. Investment starts at five figures. If that's not where you are yet, start with a conversation. We'll figure out if there's a fit.
How long does it take?
The pattern took decades to build. We don't unwind it in a weekend. Most engagements are 6-12 months. The shift starts immediately. The integration takes time.
What if I've tried coaching before?
This isn't coaching in the traditional sense. I don't track your KPIs or dispense advice. I interrupt patterns. I help you see what you can't see. I stay until the shift happens.
Is this therapy?
No. This is strategic partnership for high-performing fathers. We work on leadership, business, family, and self... and how they all integrate. If I think you need therapy, I'll lend you my non-medical opinion.
What's the difference between capacity and time management?
Time management is tactics. Capacity is who you're being. When you build capacity—energy, attention, presence—time becomes a byproduct. You stop spending hours performing and everything gets easier.
NOT READY FOR A CONVERSATION JUST YET?
See where you are on the State of Self Map
Most leaders I work with are stuck in the Performing quadrant.
Acting selfless while being self-poor.
Doing everything right.
Drowning anyway.
“The impact Brent has had me in the first 6 months since we met has been huge. The shifts we've made in our business, my leadership, our clarity - it's significant leveling up. He has this incredible ability to see things that other people can’t… he sees through people, in them, besides them, 10 steps ahead of them. Brent is the blindspot exposer."
Craig Perra, Founder of The Mindful Habit®
