Become a fully present parent, fiercely loving partner, and successful business leader — without burning out, selling out, or losing yourself in the process.
It's impossible to become a better leader at work without becoming a better leader at home too.
At some point, you stopped showing up as yourself and started performing three different versions of you. One at work. One at home. One when nobody's watching. It got you here. And it's also what's costing you.
You walk into a room and you're the one talking. The one with all the answers. Your team steps back because you've always been faster. Revenue grows, but everything bottlenecks through you.
You show up for dinner. But you're still carrying the weight of the day. Your partner gets what's left. Your kids get the version of you that has nothing left. Present in body, absent everywhere else.
Health is "fine" but declining. Haven't had a real hobby in years. Sleep is mediocre, caffeine is energy. You'll "get to yourself" later. Later never comes.
What changes isn't the workload. It's the weight.
High performers are innately generous. You lead, you carry, you fix, you protect. It probably shows up as one of five patterns.
Knowing your pattern is the first step to expanding beyond it.
Two axis: how much you're investing in yourself (self-rich vs. self-poor) and how much you're giving to others (selfish vs. selfless). Most high-performers land in the same quadrant. And it's the one that looks like success from the outside.
Taking without receiving. Depleted and withdrawn. The place nobody admits they've been.
Giving everything to everyone. Depleted but praised for it. This is where most successful leaders are stuck. It looks like winning. It feels like drowning.
The sacred selfish. Building your own capacity first. It feels wrong because your identity was built on being THE ONE. This phase is where the real work happens.
Contributing from overflow. Full access to your agency. Leadership becomes effortless because you're no longer performing it. You're just showing up.
Most people who find me are in Performing. Successful on paper. Fractured in practice.
The ability to respond instead of react. To hold more without holding on. To show up full instead of showing up depleted.
You've spent years becoming the leader everyone needs. Somewhere along the way, you sold yourself out, putting everyone else first. You're the hero, and don't even know it.
We work on personal integration, self-leadership, and the patterns keeping you stuck in loops you've outgrown.
Your sales team, marketing, finance, engineering, operations — everyone's brilliant at their job. But they speak different languages. Miscommunicate. Go in circles.
We work on strategy everyone understands, culture that doesn't require you as the translator, and communication that connects the dots.
You love your family. They love you. But at some point it became logistics instead of connection. Another thing to manage instead of something that feeds you.
We work on marriage and partnership that's connected and alive, parenting where your kids actually open up, and presence that makes your partner want to be close to you again.
Most leaders want the life they can see in their head: present parent, connected partner, successful business, at peace with themselves. But they're terrified of what they'll have to give up to get there.
We solve for that.
Father. Lover. Leader.
25 years as an entrepreneur. Two decades in the C-suite. Teams across 19 countries. Then my marriage ended, my health crashed, and I finally saw what my "indispensability" had actually cost me.
Now I help leaders see the patterns they can't see.
The Full Story →The 1,001 Papercuts Call is a 20-minute pattern recognition conversation to uncover the one papercut costing you the most.
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